Master Your Emotions With These Four Techniques
1. Be aware of your emotions and observe them with detachment
- This ego and its emotional rollercoaster are not you.
- Your negative emotions only exist in your mind and you are not your emotions.
- The most important step to mastering your emotions is to recognize them.
- Then detach yourself from them.
- Think of your emotions as clouds and yourself as the sun: The sun is always there, whether or not it's hidden by the clouds.
2. Accept the situation and focus on what you can control
- The second technique is to accept the situation triggering the emotions and to focus on what you can control.
- For the things you have no control over, accept them and let go of your need to control them.
- You can learn from your emotions.
- Fear tells you to prepare, anger tells you to motivate yourself, sadness tells you to recharge, happiness tells you to celebrate and to surf on motivation.
3. Increase your self-confidence and remain positive
- Fear and negative emotions are often linked to our belief that we’ll not be able to manage whatever may happen in the future, thus lead to a lack of self-confidence.
- Increase your self-confidence by giving yourself proof over and over again that you have been able to rely on yourself in the past.
- Self-confidence builds up gradually with your successes, provided that you accept failure.
- When facing emotional ups and downs, it’s also important to remain positive and to keep in mind that every problem has a solution.
- "Most of our fears are a threat only to our ego, not to our survival.” - Thibaut Meurisse
4. How to manage your negative emotions when you’re on edge
- Take several deep breaths and if you can, close your eyes.
- Relax your face muscles.
- Make an effort to soften your voice and to speak slowly.
- Try to put yourself in the shoes of the person who was the target of your anger to imagine what he or she must be feeling.
- Focus on framing your response in positive language.
How to Master Your Emotions